Shamelessness Phase: Take the album out again for a good listen, wonder why you don’t listen to it more often. You relive old memories of five years ago. When the album is over, you file the CD back into the closet and don’t touch it again for years, maybe a decade.
If, no pun intended, you put your mind to it, you too can partake of an out of body experience. The first thing to do though is establish where your inner-self, your consciousness, or your essence, is located in your body. Most people go for the brain, and that may well be the case, but you have to be sure before continuing…
Lie on the floor and close your eyes. Try to do so where it’s quiet, so you are not distracted by sound, either. While you are lying on the ground, let your mind wander to different parts of your body: Focus on the way the floor feels against the back of your neck, against your shoulders, against your backside. Rub your hands against the floor, and feel the texture. While you are focused on the way things feel, all of your attention is focused on a part of your body other than your head. Keep your attention completely focused on the sensation that you are getting from your hands, and that becomes your world. The center of your awareness will travel to the part of your body that you are focused on.
If you’re reading this right now, disassociated has just ticked through a rather pivotal milestone – well I think so anyway – and given the… significance of the moment I’m taking the next four days off. Actually that’s more on account of the Easter long weekend, but regardless, I’ll be back on Tuesday to say more about it.
Certain fine dining establishments are taking customer service, and attention to detail, to a new level. Having taken a booking, staff then turn to search engines to see what they can learn about their customers, all in the name of personalising, or enhancing, the dining experience:
If, for example, Roller discovers it’s a couple’s anniversary, he’ll then try to figure out which anniversary. If it’s a birthday, he’ll welcome a guest, as they walk in the door, with a “Happy Birthday.” (Or, if it seems to Roller that a guest prefers to keep a low profile, “I’ll let them introduce themselves to me,” he says.) Even small details are useful: “If I find out a guest is from Montana, and I know we have a server from there, we’ll put them together.” Same goes for guests who own jazz clubs, who can be paired with a sommelier that happens to be into jazz. In other words, before customers even step through the door, the restaurant’s staff has a pretty good idea of the things it can do to specifically blow their minds.
Dublin. 1999. There’s a photo of us, that would tell no lie, taken unawares, by a friend we were waiting for in a crowded cafe. We might as well have been glued together, so close we were, so packed was the shop, sitting on the bench seat lining the wall. Oblivious we were though, lost in a world of our own.
We’d left home looking for something that could never be found. It stared us square in the face, but not all of us could see it. Clandestine. Serpentine. Byzantine. Pristine. Destine. Intine. Tine. You called it fate, I called it chance, but what’s the difference, they’re two sides of the same card don’t you know?
If that same moment were photographed now it’d almost look the same. That’s what happens when you live in a world of your own. We might be in a cafe in Ireland, or the Irish centre of Bondi Junction, Sydney. It’d be coffee for me, tea for you, but there we’d be, together, lost in another of our imaginary gardens.
Sifting through data collected by online dating, or matchmaking sites, appears to pour cold water on the notion that opposites ultimately attract. To be sure, opposites do attract, but eventually opposites… attack, or repel.
The data reveals a clear pattern: People are interested in people like themselves. Women on eHarmony favor men who are similar not just in obvious ways – age, attractiveness, education, income – but also in less apparent ones, such as creativity. Even when eHarmony includes a quirky data point – like how many pictures are included in a user’s profile – women are more likely to message men similar to themselves. In fact, of the 102 traits in the data set, there was not one for which women were more likely to contact men with opposite traits.
When playing the dating game it seems you’re effectively looking for yourself to date. If you take my meaning. See you tonight then?