Preserving the past, the past of broken relationships that is

Thursday, 16 December, 2010

Two artists, and former partners, Olinka Vistica and Drazen Grubisic have recently opened the Museum of Broken Relationships in Zagreb, Croatia, which is dedicated to commemorating loves and relationships that are no more

If they were just showcasing old boots, airsickness bags and fluffy toys then the collection would amount to nothing more than meaningless bric-a-brac. But the sometimes heart-rending tales or even just simple sentences accompanying each item bring it all to life. For example, alongside a French identity card a Slovene has written: “The only thing left of a great love was citizenship.” One woman, who gave an axe, recounts how she used it to chop her girlfriend’s furniture into tiny pieces when she left her. The ex collected the remains and “the axe was promoted to a therapy instrument.”

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I know when you broke up last summer

Friday, 5 November, 2010

The weeks (sometimes hours) following Valentine’s Day and – in the northern hemisphere – the lead up to university spring breaks, see a surge in relationship break-ups, according to data gleaned from Facebook status updates.

McCandless said he and a colleague scraped 10,000 Facebook status updates for the phrases “breakup” and “broken up.” They found two big spikes on the calendar for breakups. The first was after Valentine’s Day – that holiday has a way of defining relationships, for better or worse – and in the weeks leading up to spring break. Maybe spring fever makes people restless, or maybe college students just don’t want to be tied down when they’re partying in Cancun.

I’d be interested to see southern hemisphere data… sure Valentine’s Day, but I wonder if a lot of relationships tend to end around September, the beginning of spring, in this hemisphere.

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Less is more even in rock, the case for breaking up the band

Wednesday, 25 August, 2010

Frank Black, frontman of the disbanded then re-banded Pixies, on why some bands decide to call it a day sooner rather than later.

A shorter lifespan also makes for a better band, he continues. “There are always exceptions to the rule, but for a lot of people, four or five years represents an amount of time where you have a consistent energy, focus and flavour. And whatever it was, whatever we were at that time – a combination of good things and negative things, naivete and youthful energy – that soup was the soup.”

The article also includes the main reasons bands give when they decide to split, together with a between-the-lines summary of what each actually means:

  • “Health reasons” – they’re sick of each other.
  • “Musical differences” – they can’t stand each other’s songs.
  • “To pursue other musical directions” – the singer’s got a solo deal.
  • “To pursue other career options” – the singer’s got an acting job.
  • “Chronic fatigue” – the singer’s got a heroin problem.
  • “The split’s perfectly amicable” – they’ve been dropped by the label and can’t be bothered carrying on.
  • “The world wasn’t ready for us” – despite endless publicity, no one was buying music or coming to shows.
  • “Out of respect” – at least one member has choked to death on their own vomit.
  • “We wanted to end on a high note” – the booking agent says he can’t get them a gig anywhere bigger than a pub next time out.

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Could word association help us avoid painful break ups?

Tuesday, 13 July, 2010

People going through relationship break ups are dealing with degrees of dependency similar to that of many drug addicts, somewhat explaining the level of suffering they are experiencing:

As any reader of mass-market romance novels could probably tell you, the brain areas associated with the pain of romantic rejection were the same ones involved in reward, motivation, physical pain, craving and addiction. (For instance, looking at photos of exes lit up regions that are activated in cocaine addicts’ brains – which may help explain quite a lot of the plot of those Twilight books.)

Perhaps forewarned is forearmed though, and it may be possible to determine if a relationship is on the ropes by way of word association, particularly if such word association is negative in regards to a partner. If thoughts of your beloved bring unfavorable words to mind it may be time to move on

The researchers found that, as they’d hypothesized, respondents who were better at the negative tasks were more likely to be broken up months later, while those who associated their partners with positive words were more likely to still be together. The findings suggest that well before people are aware of the deterioration of their relationship, negative perceptions may already have seeped into their subconscious.

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It was forty years ago today that we disbanded the group

Friday, 28 May, 2010

16 Australian artists present work at an exhibition inspired by the 40th anniversary of the break-up of The Beatles, titled “Disband”, which is on at Sydney’s aMBUSH Gallery, until this Sunday, 30 May.

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Is bad-for-the-ozone happy gas a cure for broken hearts?

Wednesday, 2 September, 2009

Further to yesterday’s piece on nitrous oxide comes a use for the gas in soothing a broken heart. Possibly.

My experiment involved buying a can of whipped topping, and obtaining a large plastic freezer bag (a large Baggie). No no no, I did not stick my head in the bag. It wouldn’t fit anyway! The bag is way too small to put your head in, unless you’re a goddam mutant. What I did was stick the nozzle of the spray can deep into the bag, place the bag over my nose and mouth as best I could (with the rest of the can still sticking out), and shoot a blast of whipped cream into the bag while inhaling deeply. The cream fell to the bottom. I breathed the vapors. And I held my breath for a while (at least 15 seconds), to make sure the gases got trapped in my blood.

Personally I think you’d receive a far more effective happy gas fix from your dentist if you require it for this purpose though.

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OMG, I’m dating a complete loser, why wasn’t I warned?

Tuesday, 12 August, 2008

Am I in a toxic relationship? Let me count the red flags

“After about three months of trying to deal with breaking up with what seems to be a total psychopath, from ‘I hate you’, to ‘I love you’ all within a matter of hours, to calls from Europe saying she misses me, to calling me after we had decided that we weren’t going to talk for a while and chastising me about talking to mutual friends via Facebook wall posts, I came across the little gem of an article that is my ex down to a tee. It’s amazing how uncanny this is a representation of her. I think a few of your readers would know these types of girls/guys, and those who don’t should really be warned…”

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